Binging on information, episodes of tv series or everyday distractions – whether it is one of the above or youtube videos, daytime TV or comfort food (snacks, junk food, unhealthy eats) it can have serious consequences. We could get addicted to distracting ourselves and then we are no longer mindful of what we are doing. And if we are not mindful of what we are doing we loose focus. And… focus is essential to achieve our goals. So, how to stop?
There can be couple causes of binging – whether it’s food or a Netflix show. It could be that we are stressed, bored, sad, or just a little bit annoyed. When we feel unappreciated, lonely, angry with our boss or spouse, after we see all those perfect bodies and faces on instagram we just need that hit, some of that instant gratification just to get us through the negative emotions.
And then after the binge is over and we ate all there is to eat from our secret snack cupboard, wasted 3 hours watching that funny Netflix show, bitten off all the nails ruining your £20 worth of gellish, all that is left is yourself. Not only still resisting those same emotions, but feeling about 100x worse because we feel guilty for what we’ve done.
What if I told you you are NOT meant to repress those emotions by binging on something? You are meant to let that resistance go and let yourself to feel like crap for a whole minute, then acknowledge it’s all in the past now and let go of it, then use that knowledge (that we don’t like something about ourselves) to motivate ourselves to change. This is the healthy approach. This is what we should be doing.
I think what you could do to make those bad habits more manageable is definitely start to meditate (as it expands our mental capacity). You can also cultivate mindfulness which is a great ability which really makes a world of the difference in your life. You learn to appreciate the process of doing all the small and regular things in life, which is essentially a base for building happiness.
There’s this book – FRAZZLED BY RUBY WAX – I really want to recommend it if you are thinking about ‘learning’ how to be more mindful in your life. It’s such a good read because it’s spiked with all sorts of interesting and funny anecdotes from Rubys life. It contains a fantastic 4 week programme to make your life more satisfying and calm by teaching you all the basics of mindfulness. I cannot recommend it enough, especially if you are struggling with depression, as this is a book that you will be able to relate so much to if you struggle with mental health problems. It’s not expensive and it’s definitely worth picking up and giving it a go.
Also, another. Thing I cannot recommend enough is single tasking. I mean, how can you say you are focusing 100% of your energy of something if you are doing two things at the same time? Surely, you aren’t. Multi tasking is a surefire way to the overwhelm. Trust me, I know a thing or two about it. It’s a trap. You are going into it with good intentions of doing more in shorter amount of time, while really you spend about as much time as you would if you do it separately with poorer results than if you were focusing on one thing at the time.
So then, I’ve got this terrible habit – ever since I started working from home, I don’t know if you can relate. When I work, I also listen to youtube videos on the other tab. Breaking the focus all the time I hear something that makes me interested and switching to the tab with the Youtube page. It’s terrible, isn’t it?
But yeah, that happens. In result at the end of the day I’m more tired than I should be as I process twice as many informations in the same frame of time, so even small things like that really count into how overwhelmed we feel at the end of the day.
Also, funny thing once I stopped doing it and tried single tasking and doing things one thing at the time and generally being more mindful I actually started loosing weight – do you know why? Because even though it was really hard to let it go at first, I also got rid of food binging habit in the process! How weird is that? Who knew!
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Are you a serial multitasker? Or do you actually do stuff in the right order? How is it going for you? Do you have a binging problem as well? Let me know in the comments!
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