I was in quite a pickle for past few weeks. Not going too much into details, basically, I had a recurring depression episode and few bad anxiety attacks. That’s why I didn’t write as often as I would like to on this blog. But, enough with the sulking – it’s time to get me in shape again.
Those self-care ideas can be lifesavers, for when you are feeling really, really down. Like “I can’t stop crying down”. Some of them might be obvious to you, but we all need a reminder sometimes about the simplest things in life as those are the ones that are most effective yet most of the time completely underestimated.
So, let’s assume situation when you wake up after a messy night – be it you had a fight with the loved one or your life completely crashed down or you had a full on emotional breakdown, panic attack or depression episode. My ultimate first and most important thing to do (any day, but especially on those bad kinds of days) is…
It might sound really obvious, but after a night of intensive crying there is NOTHING that you can replace a tall glass of water for your body. You will feel better in an instant. Being properly hydrated combats fatigue, reduces stress and helps digestion – which if you are like me and have belly troubles every time you are stressed could be a real life saver. If you are feeling sick after a really rough night, make sure you drink your water in small sips, as it’s more gentle for your body to take in after stress like that.
This is one of the best stress busters there is. If you don’t have time – do just a short 7 minute one, which you can find some of the best ones there are here. But if you have a little more time, please check out full body workout kind of one that takes 15+ minutes. It’s really helpful, as it keeps you grounded and just relaxes your body. If you prefer other kinds of workouts, be my guest, as long as it helps you, but if you haven’t tried yoga yet, give it a go please, as it’s one of the quickest ways to get yourself back in check.
Meditation is one of the best ways to calm down your mind and get yourself relaxed. It kind of goes with the previous point as it’s best done in my experience after a nice, long yoga routine. Yoga relaxes and stretches your body, so you release the toxins and then meditation quiets your mind. I find it also to be very refreshing after a workout and if you find it hard, it should also be a bit easier after doing yoga. If you want to check out more advice about mediating check out my little guide to meditation, where I shared my recommended resources to get you started in no time.
TAKE A SHOWER
See, I know – it seems so obvious, I mean – who doesn’t take a shower everyday? But you see, you might be tempted to skip this step on a particularly rough day, especially if you are struggling with depression. But I can’t stress enough how important a hygiene is. At least for me – makes me feel so much more confident, which is really handy especially if you are a having a bad time in life. Make sure you make it a priority and do it as soon after waking up as you can.
USE YOUR BEST THINGS
Spruce it up today a bit by wearing those clothes you have been saving for the special occasion. Reward yourself with wearing your best stuff – your best fragrance, clothes or makeup. You have been through stuff lately, but it’s time to reconnect with your old self and take care of yourself. Taking extra care for your appearance today is definitely something that will make your day better as you’d feel more confident – even if you will stay at home today, still at least wear stuff that you would wear outside. Don’t stay inside of your onesie all day.
EAT SOMETHING HEALTHY
So, I know how hard it is to eat something healthy when you are depressed. Usually I reach for comfort food as I’m just beyond help in this department (kidding! No one is beyond help, I’m working on it). I know it’s easy, but it’s so much better for your well being to try and eat something healthy. Like, I don’t know if you knew but your mood literally would change dramatically if you have 3 (yes, 3!) Brazilian nuts every single day. Or a handful of baby spinach. Damn, it could be even a creamed spinach if you actually will eat it. Just not too often. But if you really have to sin today with food, please at least pick a vegan junk food option. Preferably something made with sweet potato like sweet potato fries. Asda has excellent ones, btw.
BRAINSTORM WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY… AND DO IT
I know your struggle – it’s so hard for me to work out what makes me happy too. But I noticed more I whine that stuff don’t make me happy anymore less I actually do. And more I actually do of an activity instead of whining, at some point I forget that it bores me and it actually doesn’t bore me anymore. It actually makes me happy. I would start from crafting or DIYing as you won’t feel like you are wasting time and you probably wont feel guilty about it. Besides, it’s manual and it’s quite easy to quiet your worries as you need to focus on working with your hands. And if you don’t have a hobby? Try something new! Pinterest is where it’s at. If you still are not following me, then please do at the same time. So today, spend at lest half an hour or even whole day – if you have time – on doing what you truly love and what makes you happy.
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HAVE A HEART TO HEART
Now, I think the biggest thing when you are going through stuff emotionally is emotional support of people who love you. And in the middle of it all – I get it, you think that nobody loves you and nobody cares for you. You don’t see any colour to your life so you think that being open and vulnerable to other people doesn’t matter. It matters. Just talk it out, shout it out, whisper it out. Anything to get it out of your system. Just put the trust into the other person to accept you. Be transparent and just tell them how you feel. Ask for help. Acknowledge your faults, acknowledge what bothers you.
Take responsibility for your actions and have someone to hold you accountable and literally – hold you and be a shoulder to cry on. Just trust in the universe and the people who love you. If you really feel lonely or you don’t want to talk to anyone in person, please contact a helpline – there’s loving people wanting to help you there because they probably have been through what you have been through themselves at one point. Seek counselling if that’s what you think will help you and if you don’t want to leave your house, there’s also a website that can help you.
US Helpline: 800-233-4357
UK Helpline: 0300 123 3393
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READ A BOOK
One of the best forms of self care for me is to allow myself to have an hour a day to read something that I fancy to read on a particular day. On emotional days especially I either like to read something really inspiring or something simply fictional to escape from the world.
I feel like I used to read so much because I didn’t feel guilty for the time I’m “wasting”. I always have to remind myself that time with a book is never wasted and if you experience similar thoughts – just know that you are wrong and you should definitely pick up that book you wanted and just treat yourself to at least a half an hour daily to read something. Anything. If novels are not your thing, just try self-help book, just pick not too aggressive one – I recommend sincerely this one below.
My Recommendation: You Were Not Born to Suffer: Overcome Fear, Insecurity and Depression and Love Yourself Back to Happiness, Confidence, and Peace
This is basically the book that helped me with my depression the most. I can’t tell you how much this book means to me and it really came into my life in the best moment possible. It’s one of the best ones on the topic there is. I never found a more helpful book that helps you connect with your true self and gives you such a direct approach to your problems. I reread it every time I go through the rough patch and have to say every time I come back to it – I feel a little bit better.
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HAVE A GOOD NIGHT SLEEP
Not that long ago, I have dedicated a whole post about preparing for a great night sleep. You can read it here. I won’t tell you how many hours you should sleep because I don’t know that as it’s a personal preference. Like some of the greatest geniuses used to sleep between 2 hours and 12. So I can’t tell you what you should do because it depends on so many things. What you eat for one, what you drink, how much you weight and how tall are you. Also: what do you do, how much time daily you are spending meditating or working out.
So, whatever it means to you – I recommend at least 6 hours of sleep, as I aim to get at least 7. Eight hours of sleep can be a bit too much for me. But nevertheless, sleeping well is important. Especially if you are feeling like crap. Do me a favor though – don’t stare at the screen before you go to bed. It’s not good for you. This is such a little bad habit that actually can ruin your night. Just do an experiment and stop using your phone/tablet/laptop 30 minutes before you go to bed every day for a week. Just try it and let me know how it worked out for you.
That’s all I’ve got for you today. I know, they are all pretty standard but they are all important, so I thought the remainder wouldn’t hurt. I forget about at least half of those on the daily, so I know that it might be challenging fitting them all in, but trust me – it’s for the better. Hold yourself accountable and you should be fine. Just don’t get too critical if you miss one or two.
How do you deal with stress? Any ride or die, best self-care techniques that work for you? I’d love to try them, so let me know in the comments!