The ultimate point of self-awareness is that it will set you free. Acknowledging your flaws should either make you accept yourself for who you are or if you are really that ashamed of yourself, at least improve something in your life. Without flaws, we will all be pointless. Our lives will be purposeless, because what is the purpose of living the life that you cannot grow in? The pressure of being “flawless” those days is so strong and I don’t think it’s a bad thing per se, I think just that people take it very wrong.
For me, being “flawless” is just accepting ourselves for who we are and simply acknowledging that you are doing the best you can to improve. It’s not actually being flawless, no matter what ideology you will make up for the bad things about you, they won’t stop being bad. So, therefore, being “flawless” is impossible. Nothing is flawless and thanks to the fact that nothing is flawless, everything is. I know it’s a bit of a weird logic, but trust me with this.
What I mean, is not to set yourself to perfection and spread yourself too thin, just because you want to “fix” yourself, almost deleting your flaws or hiding them very well.
There is always a reason why you feel how you feel and for what you do. The important part is to know you are not broken, there’s just things that you must deal with – and you will never be perfect. That’s why perfectionism is a fault rather than an advantage. Because perfection is already within you. It’s just that it’s not what you think it is.
The social pressure is massive – I know, I have spent half of my depression recovery coming to terms with the fact that I won’t ever be perfect – and nobody is in fact and what you see on youtube or Instagram is not essentially real life, most of it is just fake and very vain. And I think once you get over it there’s no coming back to that mindset, which ultimately is good.
At the end of the day, what’s important is not an idea or a concept, it is a difference that you make in the world, but it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t try to improve on things that are lacking. Especially if you don’t like yourself having certain traits.
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That’s why, today, I want to inspire you to think what are the key 3 areas in your life that are lacking and which of your personality traits causes it. This way, you get the clarity of what to work on first. Then, I would like for you to think what actions can you take to improve it. For example, if your problem is not communicating clearly enough, why don’t you start to improve it by taking a short course on udemy.com like this one to improve it? It’s not expensive and you can reap the benefits through the rest of your life.
Personally, my key areas as for today are:
- Poor Work Ethics
Flaw: Procrastination / Being an Avoider
First action: Setting up routine in place: writing down all the things I do daily and setting them up in the order.
- Dull Everyday Life
Flaw: Anxiety caused by low self-esteem
First action: Find little ways to make my life more fun; this TED talk really inspired me to find a way for every chore of how I can turn it into a game.
- General Anxiety
Flaw: Distrust in the natural flow of things and in the fact I can achieve things.
First action: Do some affirmations in the proper way, visualize my dream or meditate for few minutes to calm down the anxiety.
Now, as much as I understand it might not be easy for all of you, but it should be done once in the while – I mean that’s basically what coaching is – it’s just that only difference is that obviously life coach will know the ways to keep you accountable to change which is a huge help, especially if you are like me – a master procrastinator.
Anyway, with this simple strategy of analyzing, identifying and tackling the issue on hand is something that always had to work on me. Hope it’ll work for you too! Let me know about your worst flaw in the comments – but don’t be too cruel to yourself, and please think about it as more of opportunity to grow.