Sometimes, I think to myself that we all get stuck in this vicious circle. We work ourselves to the bone just to get the money, which we then proceed to spend to get rid of the stress that we acquired working. We shop furiously to get this kick, this pleasure of owning new things. We picture ourselves wearing fabulous clothes and using new lovely knick-knacks or gadgets around the house… just for this feeling to disappear once we get home and put the stuff away. It’s a bit like that with fast food or alcohol – when we are eating or drinking it’s great, but once we stop, it’s just not that great.
It’s like a cluttered house with all the new shiny things we bought – it’s great at first, but then it turns out there’s just more dusting and cleaning to do afterward as it all just sits there collecting the dust. Then under the pile of all this crap, we can’t find what we need, we get annoyed with all the clothes we never wore because they just don’t feel that great outside of the store and we just get stuck with it. And still, we would say in the morning that there’s just simply nothing to wear.
Don’t get me even started about all the books you have bought about minimalistic living. How many pins you have pinned about being minimalistic or productive. I mean I sometimes don’t even click at what I’m pinning. It’s terrible.
I think clean, decluttered surroundings are really good for our heads. It’s good to have less but to really love what we have. Same goes online, I think. It’s so easy to really clutter your head up with all the information we take in, never actually processing it. I mean I get so tired sometimes that I don’t read the actual things anymore, I just skip over them with my eyes. This is as I found out a sensory exhaustion – it’s going to something that is especially relatable to my fellow INFJs out there. But this problem can touch about any personality type. I get so tired (and I bet you too!) with all the hundreds of emails, adverts, apps, marketing strategies that literally mess with our heads – I just sometimes hate all the marketing industry, the psychology should NEVER be used to manipulate people to purchase products. Yes, we all must make the living, but something just feels incredibly dirty about it. Manipulating people to buy a product.
So, what I suggest? I suggest, in those really important moments of our day we want to be present – with our partners, kids, parents, friends – you know, when it’s really important that we are here and now – because nothing lasts forever and not being present because we check Facebook or messages all the time we are not really here and now, we are really hm, nowhere.
What’s the actual, practical solution? Put your phone on the airplane mode. Honestly, just do it. This silence might be uncomfortable at first, even boring, but trust me it will all be worth it, for the beautiful mindful life.
I feel like information overload is such a block for me – I don’t know if it is for you – in the sense that it’s just too much. We all need to get on with our lives. It’s nice to know what’s going on in the world, but never for the price of making yourself uneasy or overwhelmed. I feel like media keep feeding us with all those negative information and sometimes, yes, lies worded cleverly so you can never know there’s a different option you can take. I want to make the change in myself, and therefore in the world – create a better reality for myself and help people to create a better reality for themselves, not filled with anxiety and being scared of everything. Fear and stress won’t help you with your goals, won’t be useful for your family or friends, and ultimately you will become one of the sheeple that made the world this way as it is now.
So if you want some news, find the alternative source that actually gives a crap about you, not only pushes political agendas of people that don’t have your good in mind.
I try and will try to end my day right – and yes, there are days when I just go to sleep, because I’m drunk, exhausted or depressed. I’m only human after all.
Therefore, very important for me is to implement some self-care into my night rituals – I mean it doesn’t have to be complicated or very different than what you do already, it is important for I to be mindful.
IN THE BATHROOM
So, what I do is starting simple with removing my makeup. I make sure I’m present and I don’t rush it just because my favourite show starts. I also recommend to apply a nice, natural moisturizer if you are dry, but if you have more ‘normal’ skin, it might be a good idea to let the skin breathe after you dry it for a while before putting on moisturizer.
If you used an antiperspirant in the morning – which I think most of you does, it’s super important if you not taking a shower already at night, to at least wash your armpits as you really need to get rid of polymer gel that stopped you from sweating all day. It’s so much healthier for your body to let your pores breath for a bit.
Then I will take my time with brushing teeth, I recommend oil pulling but if you can’t stand it, settle for flossing.
IN THE BEDROOM
Make sure you air out your bedroom before you go to sleep every night. Also, feel free to use aromatherapy – just make sure it’s not burning incense as it’s not great for you to sleep in a foggy room like that. If candles are your choice, pick a soy wax ones as they are much less toxic. I recommend oil burning for all that it means – I don’t do it anymore, but my favourite oils used to be lavender, sandalwood, and pine. The last one is great, especially in the winter.
Hydration is another important puzzle piece. Always, have fresh water by your bedside. I recommend drinking a glass of water before you go to sleep and right after you wake up – yes, before coffee. Don’t scroll your phone, don’t touch your laptop or tablet, just lie down and quiet down your mind – ah, also don’t forget to set all those devices on quiet mode or turn them off if possible, leaving only the phone on. Set your alarm.
Then, put some lotion on your body, being mindful the whole time – I thought it is going to make me hate my body even more, but it actually improved the relationship I have with my body, so that’s another pro tip.
And for the most important and vital step – meditation, visualization or affirmations. I do all three. What? Don’t look at me like that, I would like to achieve my goals some day. I recommend doing a little scan of your body first, lying down. It’s also a good time to listen to your intuition and let go of the day. You can also try guided meditation which my recommendations you can find in my Little Meditation Guide I have posted a few weeks ago. Listen, even if you are falling asleep with someone you can do that, just focus on your body touching the other person and just turn off your brain.
So, summing up everything:
- DO LESS, BUT BETTER QUALITY
- STAY MINDFUL ABOUT WHAT YOU DO – STAY PRESENT IN A MOMENT
- HAVE YOUR OWN LITTLE RITUALS
- STOP SHOPPING EMOTIONALLY – Honestly, don’t eat your emotions and don’t shop your emotions away – take care of your emotions. Deal with them.
- DON’T KEEP THINGS THAT YOU WOULDN’T BUY NOW.
- DO BRAIN DUMP REGULARLY
- SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE – your meals, your everyday routines, your work.
- AVOID NEGATIVITY – in media and in real life (for example gossiping).
- GET A NICE NIGHT SLEEP – every night. Or almost every night.
- DECLUTTER YOUR LIVING SPACE
- MAKE AT LEAST SOME OF YOUR EVENINGS OFFLINE.
- CHANGE SOMETHING. REARRANGE THINGS. IN YOUR HEAD OR IN YOUR LIFE OR IN YOUR LIVING SPACE.
Hope you enjoyed this one, and tell me what are your foolproof ideas on regenerating fully? Did you ever try having mindful evenings? Do you even go offline? I mean I hardly do recently, that’s why I wrote this post – for you but also for myself. Let me know your thoughts in the comments!