Was there at any point something that you really wanted to do, but never actually did and then regretted it for like a stupid amount of years? Mhm, me too. Once upon a time, I wasn’t a go-getter. I’m still not that decisive, but I know that I have to work on it. If you think about it’s all about getting out of your comfort zone and building your self-esteem.
WHY EVEN BOTHER?
Every time I would regret stopping myself from doing something, all those moments had one thing in common – I was afraid. Yes, afraid. I was scared out of my mind and I didn’t do it. Coincidentally, most of my favorite memories are the times when I was scared as hell but I did it anyway. Funny, huh? Think about it for a minute. Can you relate?
I can’t speak for you, but every-time I experience a massive shift in my mind, especially when I start to carve my way back from anxiety and depression, I always, without a fail, get a massive anxiety attack later. Obviously, it’s your brain’s job to keep you safe, even when there’s no danger. All of that fear, of course, can be based on complete delusions. The trick is to start differentiating between anxiety thoughts and actual facts. And when I find myself doing it, it’s like a moment of complete clarity, brain fog just disappears for a while and for a single moment I find myself completely relaxed and present.
And then it sort of comes back to normal. But because of moments like that I know, that truth lies not in my mind, but in my heart. It’s truly annoying for myself as I am a very analytic person, I rely on my brain so much. It’s always working so hard to overthink every single bit of information coming my way. Obviously, the lesson in this life for me must’ve been to learn to listen with my heart, as with depression or anxiety I can’t really trust my mind.
If you can relate to anything I just wrote, you are in the right place and I hope we can find our way through the dark together. The only thing I will challenge you today is to get out of your comfort zone.
To look past your fear and just go get it. Whatever it is. As long as it’s positive. Don’t do that if that’s something bad for you – be honest: you don’t really want it; it’s just the need of instant gratification speaking through you. What you crave is the feeling that it gives you. There are other ways to get that feeling. Pick the long-term goal. Don’t hurt yourself like that. You deserve more than that.
Anyway, I prepared a printable exercise sheet (as every Thursday!) to help you with this weeks challenge.
How to fill it in?
I mean, this one is pretty self-explanatory. Fill in the upper part, decide what you want, don’t worry take some time to listen. Then, move over to the action plan part of the sheet and start doing! Off you go!
But seriously, I know it’s so easy for some people because maybe they have stayed go-getters through their life which I absolutely respect and admire, but I personally find it extremely hard to keep at expanding my comfort zone and just be myself unapologetically.
Most of the time, I think it’s my self-esteem. But as much, as I’m going to tell you to ignore your anxiety, you need to respect all the emotions you feel. I did fell into the trap of completely ignoring my anxiety and I ended up hating this part of myself and trying to hide it desperately all the time. It was not only exhausting, it made me feel small, broken and not good enough for anything. It’s a dangerous pattern to follow. That’s why don’t ever feel less of yourself for having anxiety or depression – it doesn’t make up for who you are. Stop being hard on yourself and start tending to yourself out of love, instead of trying to run away from the parts of you that you don’t like. Stop being aggressive with yourself and just simply – “Have courage and be kind” to everyone. Yourself included.
Hope this post inspired you or made your day a bit better. Thank you for taking the time reading it. Let me know in the comments, what I could help you with, how and all about your journey with being courageous.