We are drowning in the vast sea of self-help books. Honestly, there is just so many nowadays. I – for all that means – am glad. Not because all of them are good. It’s because some of them are terrible and unhelpful, but I’m glad that this market grows. Mainly because people slowly start to realize how important mental health and proper self-care is. I mean, stress does horrible things to you and your body and I believe is an indirect cause of most of the diseases. That’s why it’s so important for people to understand that there is no price tag on your mental health. If it means counseling – so be it. If it means seminars and courses, group meditations, yoga classes or breathing exercises. You just have to think about this stuff.
It always amazed me how we don’t have a problem paying a lot of money to do our nails -especially women – do our hair, facials, dental care, and beauty grooming things we do, but we have a problem with paying for something that would help us better ourselves from the inside out.
Now, I’m by no means a hippie – I do all those grooming things myself and I pay for them because I like them. But I wouldn’t pay to have them done if financially I would have to choose between self-growth and grooming. The answer is self-help. It always is. This is my priority, and I don’t expect every single person to understand this – just like I don’t understand people whose priority is grooming.
Again – I love all the beautiful things as well – I love makeup and fashion, but that’s not by any means my priority.
But back to the books. I started reading them back in high school when self-growth and self-care blogs were all the rage in Poland. Even though it’s been few years since then I truly started realizing which ones were of any worth to me now.
So, without further ado, I just wanted to share the ones that had a significant influence on my life.
JOSEPH MURPHY THE POWER OF YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND // £8.99, AMAZON
I know – I’ve been rambling about this book so much on the blog, but I can’t help it – all the value included in this book is just amazing. Completely life changing for me. Gave me a kick in the arse I really really needed. It restored my hope. Hope forever getting better. Hope that I desperately needed and hoped for. Delivered amazing insights and I understood why this book was so life-changing for most people. I prefer it so much over The Secret. Which I’m not saying doesn’t work, I’m just not a fan of a book itself and some parts of the community *ekhem* anyone who thinks they can just undermine and not respect people, BECAUSE THE SECRET *ekhem*. That’s why I recommend reading this one instead. Or – at least starting on this one.
YOU WERE NOT BORN TO SUFFER BY BLAKE D. BAUER // £10.68, AMAZON
If I had to pick one book for every single person in the world to read it would definitely be this one. The therapeutic power the author wrote this book with is just life-changing. I don’t know where I would be if not for this book. As with many great things in my life – it came to me by accident. Complete utter accident. Back when my depression took a really dark turn, one of the many might I add, I visited Waterstones in a desperate attempt to cheer myself up. Bookstores always have been a place of comfort for me, as for any bookworm I can imagine. And I just randomly picked it up. The title just spoke to me at the time – because I was, in fact, suffering. I remember, at that time I had a crippling death anxiety, so it just pushed the right buttons and I dived in.
Now, I would be lying if I said I loved this book from a first chapter. It was interesting, but I didn’t get much of it for the first few chapters, but the deeper I was going and more exercises and affirmations I was completing, I experienced a total paradigm shift. It was as if someone just set me free, from the cage I was unwillingly but unknowingly closed in before.
I started taking 100% responsibility for my life and it wasn’t even a chore. I forgave everyone, but most importantly – I forgave myself. Seriously, if you are struggling with depression, anxiety or chronic stress, low self-esteem or anything. Literally anything – I recommend you to reach for this book and really take it in.
THE HAPPINESS PROJECT BY GRETCHEN RUBIN // £5.99, AMAZON
This is a book for everyone. You don’t need to be deeply troubled to read this book, or you have to have massive issues or problems with yourself. This is a read for anybody who wants a more fulfilling, happier life. It’s more like a personal storybook, but it does offer actual practical advice on how to implement the happiness project into your own life. The language it’s written in is great – quite informal, with lots of little anecdotes and funny bits. Very pleasing and entertaining. I love the feel of a paperback version as well, it’s quite soft, so you can stuff it in your bag without a problem and read either on a bus or train, on the way to work. What this book taught me was to chase my dreams and never settle for just convenient life.
YOU ARE A BADASS BY JEN SINCERO // £6.99, AMAZON
This book is the most informal one of all those. The author has a very funny, but very clever way of getting her point across. It’s also quite relatable, which makes it a light read. This book gave me the self-confidence to change my life for the better and showed me the way how to quiet down that annoying, self-doubting voice in my head. And like I mentioned before – it’s super insightful for how much of a light read it is.
Like you can see, I tried to pick out the reads that had the most impact on my life, but at the same time taught me something new and show me new ways. I didn’t just want to put all 1000 parts of “The Secret” type books, that all could be stuffed into one big awesome self-help book.
Yes, I know some of them are surprisingly light for life-changing books, but I personally, most often find in life, that seemingly insignificant things are sometimes the most significant, if you dig deep enough within yourself.
Hope you have enjoyed today’s post and have a great day/evening/afternoon wherever you are. Don’t forget to leave a comment if you have any books to recommend me or other readers.
See you soon!